Myth: Securely attached individuals don’t experience stress. Truth: They do—but they recover more quickly, thanks to better-regulated stress response systems

If you’ve ever sat with a client and quietly thought, “Ah… this is an old dance they’ve been doing since childhood,” then you’re already brushing up against one of the most elegant and compassionate models in the attachment world: the Circle of Security. Whether you’re a parent, a therapist, a supervisor, or simply a human…

(Even When the Client Is 58) At some point in attachment-informed practice, many counsellors have a quiet realisation. The client sitting in front of us may be an adult – articulate, capable, reflective – and yet something else is present too. A fear that feels too big.A longing that feels strangely young.A reaction that seems…

The Truth About Avoidant Attachment: Why Distance Doesn’t Mean Disinterest One of the most common misconceptions about avoidantly attached individuals is that they are emotionally detached and uninterested in connection. This assumption can lead to frustration, misunderstandings, and even a communication breakdown. We see this frequently in couples therapy. The Myth: Avoidant Clients Are Emotionally…

When the Memory Isn’t the Only Thing in the Room EMDR can be incredibly powerful. I have seen it help clients move through memories they have carried for years, reduce the emotional charge around what happened and finally begin to feel that the past is in the past. But sometimes the work doesn’t move in…

Disorganised Attachment: When the Person Who Should Protect You Also Frightens You Disorganised attachment is one of those areas of attachment theory that I find both fascinating and, if I’m honest, quite difficult to get my head around at times. Not because the basic idea is particularly complicated. In fact, when you strip it back,…